For
all my friends, whether close or
casual, I am doing this just because i am a young man that believes in being
real at all times no matter the consequences. Everyone will go through some
hard times at some point. Life isn't easy; just something to think about.
There are some things that
happen in this life that gets me thinking a lot and
most times i wonder why they are so. Some of the things we expect to happen
normally usually go the other way round. People usually deflect from what we
expect them to be, whether on the positive or negative side. Ok let’s check these
out:
Ø Did you know the people who exhibit the most kindness are the
first to get mistreated?
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| Irony of life |
This
might be the case for lots of people especially the nice ones. I don’t want to stress the fact that I tried
a lot to put smiles on people’s faces, even when I needed such treatments I
never got them often. Most people have shut the doors of their hearts today
because evil treatments that have been meted on them. When you see someone that
is always secluded or too reserved, you don’t need to just conclude or judge
them. Most of them have seen a lot in the hands of people, ranging from heart
breaks, manipulations, wickedness, rape and abuses (either sexually, morally or
otherwise). Some have seen people it happened to and so are afraid to let
people into their lives. What such fellows need are reasons to believe that
faithful people still exists.
But no matter what please remain loving and
kind-hearted at all times, you never know when someone might need to reach out
to you. Just because people refuse to be nice, it shouldn’t make you relent in
your kind ways after all, the Bible says “Blessed are the Merciful for they
shall be shown Mercy” {Matt 5v7}. Anyway SUCH
IS LIFE.
Being kind has its way of
giving me peace of mind.
Ø Did you know the ones who take care of others all the time
are usually the ones who need it the most?
Ah! God have mercy, I have been there so I
know what am saying. Too much of being friend to many is not very good o, then,
in school I am always seen with people but the truth is am usually alone, I
have many friends but am always lonely, I usually walk alone until the tail end
of my university days. In as much as my friends might not believe I but it is
the truth. After lectures or fellowship, people go in twos or larger groups but
my case was always different because I was friend to many and close to none.
God knows I needed someone who could understand me better than every other
person. Sometimes just because a person looks happy, it doesn't mean they are,
you have to look past their smile to see how much pain they may be in.
Believe
me plenty of the people you chat and laugh with soak their pillows every night,
it might be family problems, health struggles, job issues, worries of any kind
and just needs to know that someone cares. Some just need to hear someone say
that everything is ok, tell them how good and great they are and can be in
future, how beautiful they look (Ladies am I lying? Lolz).Some people are not
strong emotionally, so kind words and cajoling is what propels them. Can we
refrain from wicked act and try to show a little kindness and love every day,
well SUCH IS LIFE.
Most times I devout my time in making
people happy and comfortable, even though the favour is not usually returned, I
still love doing it.
Ø Did you know the three hardest things to say are I love you,
I'm sorry, and help me?
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| i wonder how hard it can be |
Yes this is very true. Most guys can testify to
the fact that it is very hard telling a woman how much you love her, except you
are a player. Well if you are genuinely in love don’t be shy or short of
confidence to express how you feel. Again I came to realization that wonderful
sisters in Christ can so misunderstand and misinterpret this three letter words
“I love you”. Recently I referred to
one of my fellowship sisters as my love
and she told me outrightly that she is not. I wonder what we share in the presence
of God if not his love. The worst is when you refer to same sex with such
expressions you know what your case will be. Lack of confidence has really
denied most people wonderful opportunities. When you can’t let someone know how
you feel about him or her, then I wonder what you can really do. If you will
take my advice; just forget about practicing lines or what the person will say.
Go and say what is on your mind and be real.
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| hmmm |
On the
other hand some people rather loose their lives than apologizing for the wrong
they have done. I wonder why this is so. I even preach that for the sake of
peace even when you are on your right, saying sorry can go a long way in
settling an issue that can lead to loss of life if violence is employed. Those
three letters have saved me lots of trouble, I don’t mind going on my knees.
Unfortunately for me tears can roll down my cheeks if I really offend someone.
This life will be a lot better if we learn to say ”I am sorry”.
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| it won't take anything away from you |
It is a pity but so many people die in silent
today because they can’t call for help. While some are very private people
others feel too big to ask for help for reasons best known to them. To me, as
far as someone knows or has something you don’t have you should mellow down and
get it when you need it because whether you like it or not the person is better
than you in such area of life.
We recently lost a Nollywood actor and it was
reported that being a very private person, his colleagues were not even aware
that he was sick. Being reserved and private shouldn’t be to the detriment of
your life. Wisdom is profitable to direct {Eccle 10v10}. Why not play the fool
and get what you need. Do what people say matter when your life or destiny is
involved? You should know that people will always talk whether good or bad. In
fact if people are not talking about you then you should probably start living
and stop existing. Hmmm… SUCH IS LIFE
It kills me when someone is
dying inside and yet refuses to seek for help
Ø Did you know that most relationships are not inspired by
love?
People have resorted into playing with each
other’s feelings and emotions; this has propelled me into making a plea;
I want
to plead with the ladies to please stop playing with people's emotions. It is a
good thing to be approached by a man at least that makes you an attractive
woman. To have feelings for someone is one thing, when the feelings is not
reciprocated it’s a different issue but when you as a lady starts taking
advantage, it is entirely bad. It is not a crime to feel something for someone
since it comes naturally so when different guys approach you at the same time,
appreciate it but you don't have to say yes to more than one person, just keep
telling others NO, one day they will stop. I so hate when I realized ladies
date different guys simply because they don’t know which of them will
eventually be her husband in future, that’s so absurd. Remember that you can
also love someone one day, how will you feel when you are being cheated on, and
don't take it to heart when the person you love do not love you back, it is very
natural. When you are jilted, do not be heartbroken, it simply means you guys
were never meant to be together, yeah because SUCH IS LIFE. Just look up to the
bright side of life and the right person will walk in one day.
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| please |
And for guys, please accept it when ladies say
they are not interested in you, after trying like three times then just let
them be. If the girl is just putting on an act then she will come looking for
you one day. Please don' play with ladies emotions as this has sent lots of
people to their early grave, do not kill people before their time. Most ladies
have resolved to be alone because of several unfaithful and ruthless guys that
have crossed their path. And for such ladies I have this for you:
A dentist once told me
that letting go is like pulling a
tooth. When it was pulled out, you're relieved,
but how many times does your tongue run itself
over the spot where the tooth once was?
Probably a hundred times a day. Just because
it was not hurting you don’t mean you did not
notice it. It leaves a gap and sometimes you
see yourself missing it terribly. It's going to take
a while, but it takes time. Should you have kept
the tooth? No, because it was causing you so
much pain. Therefore move on and let go.
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| Free your mind from hate. |
Let’s give people reasons to live, God gave us
these feelings so that we can live happily so let's make this world A BETTER
PLACE. God bless you.
This is so true in life.. Most people who have a lot of friends are usually lonely.. They solve other people's problems but when its their turn there seems to be nobody available to help.. Nice one dear..
ReplyDeleteThanks Ify, it was a big case for me but I couldn't tell anyone
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