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Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts

Saturday, 15 August 2015

Are these women good for marriage?

While we can all agree that nobody is perfect, there are actually a few things that would adversely affect a relationship if a man chooses to partner with a woman with some not-so-great attributes. So, sequel to my previous post titled "MEN BEWARE OF THESE LADIES", I present to you 10 kinds of woman a man should think twice about making a wife.

10. The Bitter Woman:

You know that woman that always seems to be angry at the menfolk all the time? Perhaps she has had her heart broken one too many times, but this woman is always bashing on men and talking about how they are no-good or useless. A man might not want to settle down with someone so bitter as it is guaranteed that when the opportunity arises, she would hurl hurtful insults and intense, hateful words his way due to all her unresolved anger. But if you really love this lady, then insist that she seeks the face of God and possibly a therapist in order to address the issue and get rid of her bitterness. If you are a Lady reading this I want you to note this: "bitter women says that all men are the same but wise women decides to stop choosing the same type of men."

9. The Selfish Woman:
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 If you want a happy home and a partner that wants your happiness as well as hers, then you should steer clear off the selfish woman. A woman who is determined to make sure she always comes first would not be able to build a cheerful and loving home with you. When you give this type of woman money to carter for family issues, be rest assured that her own needs will come first; she will always have need anyway.

8. The Materialistic Woman: 
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A woman obsessed with material things would certainly not make the best wife. If all she cares about are material possession over family, faith and spiritual fulfillment, then she will not make the best partner.

7. The Flirty Woman:
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Are you attracted to that woman that always seems to flirt with one person or another? She flirts like a butterfly from one man to another and makes all men feel like she is interested in them. Well, beware, because a habit like that might be hard to break after marriage and you would not want to start hearing that your wife has had flirty conversations with all the men in the neighborhood.

6. The Party Freak: She is invited to every party and attends them all. She is always dressed in the most flashy clothes and is the ultimate party girl. She lives for the next big gathering and cannot say no to an invitation. Such woman might not be the type to settle down in a marriage.

5. The Spoilt-Brat :
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A woman who grew up having everything handed to her and has never had the experience of actually working for something is unlikely to make the best wife. No matter how much you might be willing to provide her with the kind of lifestyle she grew up with, remember, marriage comes with kids and kids require sacrifice. If she has never had to work or make sacrifices for anything in her life, it is unlikely that she would start now.

4. The Attention Seeker:
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While some women naturally like attention, when it becomes an obsession, then it is not a good idea. A good husband makes sure he has time for his wife, but this cannot happen 100 percent of the time so a good wife should understand that.

3. The Gossip : Does she always seem to never mind her own business? Is she always focused on what someone else is doing or how someone else is living their life? Then you do not need this kind
of woman as a wife. A man needs someone that would build a home with him and this requires some focus on her own plans and her own life. If she is too busy minding someone else’s business, then you are fighting a losing battle.

2. The Commitment-Phobia : A woman who finds it difficult to commit to anything (school, jobs, family, friendship, etc) would also not be able to commit to a marriage. If she seems to lose interest in everything quickly and is always looking for the next thing to jump into, then you would have a hard time keeping her focused in her marriage.

1. The Disrespectful Woman: If she seems to always be disrespectful and rude (even if it is to people she considers beneath her standards) then you need to think twice about marrying her. Respect for a fellow human being is a very important attribute in who we choose to spend the rest of our lives with so it is definitely not something that should be taken lightly.

At this point I have to say that as a young man, I am not perfect but I can be proud to say "I am saved by grace". I am no better than the set of Ladies mentioned above but I have been open-hearted to God and the positive changes he brings to my life. What am saying in essence is that anyone who is willing to accept change in his or her life deserves a second chance. From my own view and with my experience in life I defined the term HUMAN as IMPERFECT. But in situation whereby I have an issue and refuse to accept it then you need to leave me and move on. I will also take out this time to say that men are not less guilty of negative attitude therefore are not left out of these.


ref: Naij.com

Wednesday, 13 May 2015

MEN BEWARE OF THESE LADIES

Most single men and women are seriously asking for guidelines on finding a compatible mate. These are  guidelines for men who are looking for wives. Mostly for the serious minded and my fellow christian brothers, these are ladies to avoid:

1. The unbeliever.
Christians should not marry unbelievers. Second Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). Apart from your decision to follow Christ, marriage is the single most important decision you will ever make. Don’t blow it by ignoring the obvious. You need a wife who loves Jesus more than she loves you. Put spiritual maturity at the top of your list of qualities you want in a wife.

2. The material girl.
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One young man was engaged to a girl from a rich family. He saved up money for months to buy a ring, but when he proposed she told him he needed to go back to the jewelry store to buy a bigger diamond. She pushed her fiance to go into debt for a ring that fit her expectations. She wanted a Tiffany’s lifestyle on his Wal-Mart budget. But the man was advised by friend that he was stepping into serious trouble. Unless you want to live in debt for the rest of your life, do not marry a girl who has dollar signs in her eyes and eight credit cards in her Gucci purse.

3. The diva.
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its all about herself
Some macho guys like to throw their weight around and pretend they are superior to women. Divas are the female version of this nightmare. They think the world revolves around them, and they don’t think twice about hurting somebody else to prove their point. Their words are harsh and their finger-snapping demands are unreasonable. Some of these women might end up in leadership positions at church, but don’t be fooled by their super-spiritual talk. Real leaders are humble. If you don’t see Christlike humility in the woman you are dating, back away from her and keep looking.


4. The Delilah.

Remember Samson? He was anointed by God with superhuman strength, but he lost his power when a seductive woman figured out his secret and gave her man the world’s most famous haircut. Like Delilah, a woman who hasn't yielded her sexuality to God will blind you with her charms, break your heart and snip your anointing off. If the “Christian” woman you met at church dresses provocatively, flirts with other guys, posts sexually inappropriate comments on Facebook or tells you she’s OK with sex before marriage, get out of that relationship before she traps you.

5. The contentious woman.
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A young man dated a girl who had serious resentment in her heart because of past hurts. “Before I would propose, I told my fiancee she had to deal with this,” he explained. “It would have been a deal-breaker, but there was a powerful breakthrough and now we are engaged.” This guy realized that unresolved bitterness can ruin a marriage. Proverbs 21:9 says, “It is better to live in a corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” If the woman you are dating is seething with anger and unforgiveness, your life together will be ruined by arguing, door-slamming and endless drama. Insist that she get prayer and counseling.

6. The controller.
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Marriage is a 50/50 partnership, and the only way it works is when both husband and wife practice mutual submission according to Ephesians 5:21. Just as some guys think they can run a marriage like a dictatorship, some women try to manipulate decisions to get their way. This is why premarital counseling is so important! You don’t want to wait until you've been married for two weeks to find out that your wife doesn't trust you and wants to call all the shots.

7. The mama’s girl.

It’s normal for a new wife to call her mom regularly for advice and support. It is not normal for her to talk to her mother five times a day about every detail of her marriage, including her sex life. That’s weird. Yet there are some guys whose wives allowed their mothers (or fathers) total control of their marriages. Genesis 2:24 says a man is to leave his parents and cleave to his wife. Parents should stay in the background of their children’s marriages. If your girlfriend hasn't cut the apron strings, proceed with caution.

8. The addict.
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So many people in the church today have not been properly discipled. Many still struggle with various types of addictions—to alcohol, illegal drugs, prescription medicines or pornography—either because we don’t confront these sins from the pulpit or we don’t offer enough compassionate support to strugglers. Jesus can completely set a person free from these habits, but you don’t want to wait until you’re married to find out your wife isn't sober. You may still be called to be married, but it is not wise to tie the knot until your girlfriend faces her issues head-on.

Your best rule to follow in choosing a wife is found in Proverbs 31:30: “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Look past the outward qualities that the world says are important, and choose a woman who above all things fears the Lord.

Tuesday, 24 February 2015

I Just Got Rejected Again

I will like to start with a question; have you ever been rejected, when was the last time you got a “NO” to you proposals, do you know how many times it has occurred?, in fact can you recount your reaction towards or in response to  your being rejected? I will like you to play back even if it is to one occasion where you were rejected. To some people it must have been the worst days of their lives, LOL. So if I may ask, WHAT IS REJECTION TO YOU?

Thursday, 22 January 2015

Don't Worry Such Is Life


For all my friends, whether close or casual, I am doing this just because i am a young man that believes in being real at all times no matter the consequences. Everyone will go through some hard times at some point. Life isn't easy; just something to think about. There are some things that