I turned my Rejection to my Attention (part 2)

The is the continuation and the last of our Rejection series, enjoy.

WHEN REJECTED, GIVE IT A BREAK AND STRIKE AGAIN

I have learnt over-time that life is not a do or die struggle. When you try few times and it didn’t work, it is advisable to give it a break and get some fresh air.

By that I mean try and give it some time before doing it again. In the fresh air you might discover why it has not been working and as well realise how it can work. Thomas Edison didn’t kill himself, Abraham Lincoln later became President and of course Rtd. Gen. Muhammadu Buhari has become the president of Nigeria after the fourth trial. They and many others all tried different times and it didn’t work. Not getting it in the first few trials might not mean failure. It might be due to wrong approach or wrong timing. Whichever case, just relax a little before striking again.

Focus more on how it’s going to work rather than dwelling on how it didn’t work… charlesfiness

• SURPASS THE LIMITING FACTOR

Something must have made someone to say NO to you. Always deal with the reason why you got that negative response. You can surpass your limiting factor by always adding knowledge to yourself through reading, practising or participating. Some people have talents in them but harnessing it becomes a big issue. Meet with people of greater knowledge than you and learn from them, it is one of the fastest ways to add knowledge. Do more practising on your own than you do generally. Stop keeping yourself in the dark, search for the light all the time.

Stop feeling inferior to others, it will keep you stagnant for a long time… charlesfiness

When it was time for my final year project, I didn’t know how to go about it so I sought the help of an expert. The huge amount he demanded was a big blow.  But that did not set me back. I had to sit down and allow my instincts have its way and with the guidance from my supervisor I sailed through in high notes.

What am saying here is that rejection has a way of bringing out the best in you, show you that you can do what you never thought you can do. It even refines the idea or skills you already have because at that point you will seek to improve on what you know already in order to do better.

Stop leaving your thinking faculty dormant by killing yourself with self-pity… charlesfiness

• LOOK INSIDE OF YOU FOR INSIGHT

There is a personality inside of you that makes you very unique in your life time. Instead of being downcast, allow your God-given instinct to do its work.

Khuan Chew is a world class interior designer who designed and decorated the interiors of the world’s tallest hotel ‘The Burj al Arab’ located in Dubai. Before that she had worked with Sultan of Brunei, which is why she was recommended as the best for the Burj al Arab job. With her record no one will question her judgement on interior designs and decoration, but something very exciting happened; after her world class decoration in the hotel, she was applauded for her great work but was told that the Atrium was not good enough and so the work was rejected.

 Sheikh Mohammed wanted a more stylish and colourful Atrium and not all white. Khuan Chew had to go back, redesign and redecorate the tallest Atrium in the world in just six months and still came out with an outstanding performance. A record time frame she could not achieve initially when she was more relaxed. You can watch the video by clicking HERE.

Rejection is not the end of the road, rather an opportunity to look inside, re-strategize and bring out your best. I want to close my rejection series with this:

If you are weak; rejection gives you strength, if you are visionary; it can make you see farther… charlesfiness

I turned my rejections to my attention (part 1)

I tried to establish in my previous post about Rejection that it is our part of life because it is an almost every day occurrence. In case you have not read my first post on rejection then it is a big miss for you, I will advise you to help yourself out by clicking HERE to get to read it, you can’t afford to loose it.

If you are back from the journey then let me take you through another mind-blowing and probably the most interesting journey of reading.

When we get rejected we tend to focus so much attention on our immediate hurt and what led to it that we are likely to loose perspective and overgeneralize the incident. This causes us to convince ourselves that our fears and worries are already coming to pass. But if we check it very well, one rejection might have no connection with another. The fact that things didn't work out between you and someone doesn't mean that you won’t click with another, because everyone is different. This also goes to employer/employee, friends, and any other rejection scenario.

So having dealt with the effects of rejection on the other post, we are going to see how we can maximize every single rejection we face daily, in this post, and I pray and hope that at the end of the adventure here you will see with me that rejection means a lot more positively than it means negatively.

Personally I see rejection as being given an opportunity to be better than I used to be. In the other post, I made mention of myself going to a choral group for auditioning and I was rejected because I was not good in classical music. Since then I have not rested in improving my musical prowess especially in classical.

As far as you are ready to keep a positive mind-set in all situation and also to work hard, then you will soon start seeing reasons why one should even rejoice when there is a ‘NO’ answer. So if you are ready let us look very briefly to things you need to do to maximize your Rejections in order to get positive results in nearby future.

• YOUR PERSONALITY IS YOUR SELLING POINT, USE IT WELL

It will be good to talk about our personalities first before every other thing. It is vital if I let us know that our personalities matter a lot and will always speak for us, it can speak good or bad about you depending on how you maintain it. Your personality is your qualities that make you different from every other person. It can be emotional or attractive qualities such as your skills or the way you behave, the way you dress and carry yourself. These little things always have something to say about one in future. In a nut shell, your personality is the quality that defines you. 

Your natural talents and skills will lie dormant until you nurture them. When developed, these skills make you a brand; that is personality. Your encounters with people at each point in time always leave them with something to say about you, so try and make every opportunity to prove yourself matter most.

You don’t have a second chance to make your first impression… charlesfiness

If you have a good personality, then people will sell you without you stressing yourself much. If you Build a good character for yourself, you will become a reference point.

• GIVE PEOPLE REASONS TO DEPEND ON YOU

Have you ever proved anyone wrong before, how did you feel making people’s mouth open in surprise to what you could do? That was exactly what JESUS CHRIST did to a Samaritan woman according to John 4: 10-15. Look at verse 14-15 again and you will see that Jesus made her desire at all cost what he has to offer her.

Be a problem solver. The society is looking for people that will give to it and not the ones that will take from. Always create good impression of yourself and have something that will make people to come looking for you from time to time.

you really have no limitation

At the tail end of my secondary school, my classmates agreed without objection for me to keep the money we were all contributing for our graduation celebration. The most shocking aspect of it is that when the money was stolen, no body accused me of being the thief. They supported me fully until everything was sorted out. There were so many other situations where people really showed me that they can trust me with valueable things, confidential informations about their private life and that they depend on me for genuine counsel; when they needed a friend to pour their hearts to, other private issues etc. all because of the trust I built for myself.

It’s not just in having good character, but look out for a problem you can solve for people. When you do that, trust me people will be on the look-out for you. In an area where there is no water, a mobile water retailer is more important to the people of that area than their local ruler.

If you can get the society to depend on you, nobody can reject you… charlesfiness

To be continue…

I Just Got Rejected Again

I will like to start with a question; have you ever been rejected, when was the last time you got a “NO” to you proposals, do you know how many times it has occurred?, in fact can you recount your reaction towards or in response to  your being rejected? I will like you to play back even if it is to one occasion where you were rejected. To some people it must have been the worst days of their lives, LOL. So if I may ask, WHAT IS REJECTION TO YOU?