LETTER TO MY DEAR SON

Dear Son, I’ve been watching you closely for the past few days with admiration. I must admit that I’m proud of you. Looking at you reminds me of my days also. Days when we were young with the free-est bloods in the world flowing. When all that we did was tied down to the women folk. Son, that time is here again in my life and I see it pass through you. 

In time past, some of my friends lived life like there’s no tomorrow. I can’t guarantee you that it’s well with them today just because of the kind of women they blended with. Like I’m saying to you, my father once told me, watch every woman closely before befriending especially if you want to make her a wife. Try to get to know her mother. If she fits your taste at an old age, your lady will suit you when she’s old.

Fear girls that are between the ages of 15 to 23. They no get sense. I repeat, “them no get sense” although they look beautiful. That beauty is what they mostly can give and it ends there. If you don’t believe me, take a look at your sister and her friends around the same age . In the house, she acts normal but outside, she’s a cat and anything running through her mind. Even when you find the woman of your dreams, never you let her know you all. Give her your best. The spirit of "see finish" is stronger in women than in men. When she feels she’s seen all of you, she’ll likely press and that “mumu button” found.

My dear son, there’s a spirit roaming about in women known as feminism. If you don’t want to end up with a broken home, run away from feminist-women. That spirit calls for equality, equity and related jargons. It allows for a man to cook and wash plates, provide for the wife, go to the market, and also allows a woman to come back late from work, to go visit her friends anytime she wants (even male friends) etc but the spirit tags any man who has female friends "A Cheat". Don’t fall for that. In as much as it allows for all, it doesn’t allow you relate with your female friends like she does to men. Questioning anything she does calls for break up or divorce even if you have 12 kids. My guy-no gree!

Use your head to understand your woman, trust God for her but build up a mind set that she’ll lie to you anytime. When she does, keep your cool. Don’t raise your voice. A woman when asked will tell you she’s dated “just” two men. Na lie many of them dey talk. If they dated just two, what’s their body count? A woman will date over 16 men, sleep around and be popular like a campaign slogan, yet will tell you, I’ve had sex with my ex only. People change that I know but if you marry her, you’ve married an ashewo and you know what they say, “ashewo wey marry, na holiday she go.”(no be me talk am shaa)

When you find a virgin, value her. Keep her till your wedding day and pop the cherry. If you opened her up before marriage, her value might become worthless. She might stray away like a goat along the way- she’ll find her way back. When she comes back, teach her a lesson but don’t hate her and don’t make her regret coming back.

Don’t feel good collecting anything from a woman(worth noting). She might use it against you one day. When you are down and can’t do a thing, find a way to survive. Men have a special way of surviving no matter how bad the situation.
 

Never you hit a woman
Never argue with her
Never cry for her or show signs of weakness
Laugh moderately and frown moderately

You can engage a woman with 10 rings and she’ll still cheat. Have a mind set that anything is possible. I’ve seen bright men brought to ruins because they didn’t expect a woman to let them down. The downfall is so enormous that they can’t rise again. Don’t let that happen to you. When she’s with you, she’s your girlfriend. If she’s not, she’s our girlfriend.

Finally son, don’t be in a hurry to have sex with a woman. Some women are there as destiny helpers. It’s easier for an ex you never slept with to help you than a woman who has children for you. Befriend any type you want; tall, short, plumpy, thin, lean, wide, sharp, curved, etc. but don’t be in a hurry to get the visa to their London. You might date the president’s next wife and she could help you some day. Always remember that you are a man and that the world will try to substitute the role play of a man but can’t. Women will scream whatever right but don’t forget that it’s part of what makes them women.

Start learning to love, control and provide for your sisters and a wife won’t be hard to for you to handle.

Goodluck!
Your Chauvinistic Dad/male rights promoter

PLEASE FOLLOW BACK

After a friend took his time to tell me about twitter: trending topics, tweeting directly at celebs etc – I just knew I’d fall in love with it. So, I joined, but discovered there was much more to it. The quantity of followers you have, and the quality of what you tweet determine how much fun it will be for you. My 1st few weeks on twitter wasn’t fun at all – I didn’t have up to 10 followers.

MEN BEWARE OF THESE LADIES

Most single men and women are seriously asking for guidelines on finding a compatible mate. These are  guidelines for men who are looking for wives. Mostly for the serious minded and my fellow christian brothers, these are ladies to avoid:

1. The unbeliever.

Christians should not marry unbelievers. Second Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). Apart from your decision to follow Christ, marriage is the single most important decision you will ever make. Don’t blow it by ignoring the obvious. You need a wife who loves Jesus more than she loves you. Put spiritual maturity at the top of your list of qualities you want in a wife.

2. The material girl.

she wants everything

One young man was engaged to a girl from a rich family. He saved up money for months to buy a ring, but when he proposed she told him he needed to go back to the jewelry store to buy a bigger diamond. She pushed her fiance to go into debt for a ring that fit her expectations. She wanted a Tiffany’s lifestyle on his Wal-Mart budget. But the man was advised by friend that he was stepping into serious trouble. Unless you want to live in debt for the rest of your life, do not marry a girl who has dollar signs in her eyes and eight credit cards in her Gucci purse.

3. The diva.

its all about herself

Some macho guys like to throw their weight around and pretend they are superior to women. Divas are the female version of this nightmare. They think the world revolves around them, and they don’t think twice about hurting somebody else to prove their point. Their words are harsh and their finger-snapping demands are unreasonable. Some of these women might end up in leadership positions at church, but don’t be fooled by their super-spiritual talk. Real leaders are humble. If you don’t see Christlike humility in the woman you are dating, back away from her and keep looking.

4. The Delilah.

Remember Samson? He was anointed by God with superhuman strength, but he lost his power when a seductive woman figured out his secret and gave her man the world’s most famous haircut. Like Delilah, a woman who hasn't yielded her sexuality to God will blind you with her charms, break your heart and snip your anointing off. If the “Christian” woman you met at church dresses provocatively, flirts with other guys, posts sexually inappropriate comments on Facebook or tells you she’s OK with sex before marriage, get out of that relationship before she traps you.

5. The contentious woman.

A young man dated a girl who had serious resentment in her heart because of past hurts. “Before I would propose, I told my fiancee she had to deal with this,” he explained. “It would have been a deal-breaker, but there was a powerful breakthrough and now we are engaged.” This guy realized that unresolved bitterness can ruin a marriage. Proverbs 21:9 says, “It is better to live in a corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” If the woman you are dating is seething with anger and unforgiveness, your life together will be ruined by arguing, door-slamming and endless drama. Insist that she get prayer and counseling.

6. The controller.

Marriage is a 50/50 partnership, and the only way it works is when both husband and wife practice mutual submission according to Ephesians 5:21. Just as some guys think they can run a marriage like a dictatorship, some women try to manipulate decisions to get their way. This is why premarital counseling is so important! You don’t want to wait until you've been married for two weeks to find out that your wife doesn't trust you and wants to call all the shots.

7. The mama’s girl.

It’s normal for a new wife to call her mom regularly for advice and support. It is not normal for her to talk to her mother five times a day about every detail of her marriage, including her sex life. That’s weird. Yet there are some guys whose wives allowed their mothers (or fathers) total control of their marriages. Genesis 2:24 says a man is to leave his parents and cleave to his wife. Parents should stay in the background of their children’s marriages. If your girlfriend hasn't cut the apron strings, proceed with caution.

8. The addict.

So many people in the church today have not been properly discipled. Many still struggle with various types of addictions—to alcohol, illegal drugs, prescription medicines or pornography—either because we don’t confront these sins from the pulpit or we don’t offer enough compassionate support to strugglers. Jesus can completely set a person free from these habits, but you don’t want to wait until you’re married to find out your wife isn't sober. You may still be called to be married, but it is not wise to tie the knot until your girlfriend faces her issues head-on.

Your best rule to follow in choosing a wife is found in Proverbs 31:30: “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Look past the outward qualities that the world says are important, and choose a woman who above all things fears the Lord.

Sell me this pen - by Ian Adams

In bid to lighten up on the interview tricks, I got this wonderful piece from Ian Adams. He made a good expository on how to make sales skillfully. Read and learn.

I personally never thought anyone would actually say, “sell me this pen” in a sales interview. I was wrong. It will happen to you too. And to avoid panic, you should know exactly what to say back.

I am going to give you the right sales framework to respond perfectly every time.

On a quick side note, did you know this sales interview question has been around for millions of years? Its origins date back to the earliest of cavemen. Selling slingshots cave-to-cave. Except back then, they asked, “sell me this bowl of crushed berries.”

Anyways. The point is, one day it will happen to you and I want you to be prepared.

Because if you start to describe how smooth the pen feels and how shiny the pen looks, just like you saw in the Wolf of Wallstreet…

You probably won’t get the job.

Why it matters to sell me this pen

At first, I didn’t realize why it mattered. It just seemed like a silly question. But, you’ll see.

When you become good at answering this question, you actually become one hell of a salesperson.

And that’s why people still ask it in interviews. It shows your creative approach and how good you are at actually selling product (not just reading your resume).

There are exactly four sales skills the interviewer is looking to see when you answer:

1.     how you gather information

2.     how you respond to information

3.     how you deliver information

4.     and how you ask for something (closing)

Now, since I had a lot of sales interviews lined up at the beginning of last year. I thought, I better practice my response just in case.

The “just wing it” strategy is best for making pancake mix, not for sales interviews.

So let’s go through exactly what you can say to address each sales skill. Because when you do it right, you will blow their mind!

Here’s exactly what you can say

Just to back up for a second, I had 26 sales interviews in a period of three months. Someone was bound to ask me.

Ok. The Director of Sales stood up and said, “it was great meeting you Ian. Let me go grab the CEO to come in next.” Moments later, the CEO of the 30 person startup walked in the small conference room.

Shortly after initial greetings, the CEO wasted no time to start the interview.

I practiced my answer beforehand. I made sure my answer displayed the four sales skills the CEO needed to hear.

Now you can read it for yourself. And then use it for yourself.

At the bottom, you can see a simple sales framework to memorize that will make this work for you in any situation.

You can memorize the script, but more importantly, memorize the sales framework at the end.

Here you go…

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CEO: Do me a favor, sell me this pen. (reaches across to hand me the pen)

Me: (I slowly roll the pen between my index and thumb fingers.) When was the last time you used a pen?

CEO: This morning.

Me: Do you remember what kind of pen that was?

CEO: No.

Me: Do you remember why you were using it to write?

CEO: Yes. Signing a few new customer contracts.

Me: Well I’d say that’s the best use for a pen (we have a subtle laugh).

Wouldn’t you say signing those new customer contracts is an important event for the business? (nods head) Then shouldn’t it be treated like one. What I mean by that is, here you are signing new customer contracts, an important and memorable event. All while using a very unmemorable pen.

We grew up, our entire lives, using cheap BIC pens because they get the job done for grocery lists and directions. But we never gave it much thought to learn what’s best for more important events.

This is the pen for more important events. This is the tool you use to get deals done. Think of it as a symbol for taking your company to the next level. Because when you begin using the right tool, you are in a more productive state of mind, and you begin to sign more new customer contracts.

Actually. You know what? Just this week I shipped ten new boxes of these pens to Elon Musk’s office.

Unfortunately, this is my last pen today (reach across to hand pen back to CEO). So, I suggest you get this one. Try it out. If you’re not happy with it, I will personally come back next week to pick it up. And it won’t cost you a dime.

What do you say?

CEO: (picks jaw up off floor)  Yes.

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See how simple that was. The CEO loved it. Why?

Because all four sales skills were displayed.

Here’s the simple sales framework I used to answer “sell me this pen”. Memorize it for yourself.

1.     Find out how they last used a pen (gather info)

2.     Emphasize the importance of the activity they last used a pen (respond to info)

3.     Sell something bigger than a pen, like a state of mind (deliver info)

4.     Ask for the buy (closing)

Does that make sense? Yes. Ok, good.

 Conclusion

• Remember, it’s not about actually selling a pen. It’s about showing how well you can sell a product.
• And even though there are an infinite number of answers to this interview question, it’s easy to memorize a simple formula.
• Now that you have a formula, next time you need a quick, go-to answer, rememberthe Senator Club formula.
• Take 15 minutes today to practice the script above. I promise you will benefit.
• Plus, would you mind doing me a favor. Share this with ONE person in sales. It could save their career 

Job Interview tricks you need to know.

Hi Fellas, i came across this and it is too good to ignore so i decided to share it here.
The journey into the world of employment can take different forms. For some, it can be easy while for others it might be very difficult. Finding that particular job that resonates with you; that brings out the best in you; that makes you be on top of your game at all time is not child’s play. Job interviews are critical parts of this journey. In some cases, you might have to appear at different stages of interview – first interview, second interview and third interview. Even more in some cases.

The higher the level of the interview process the more difficult the questions you are asked. And your ability to tactfully answer these questions will put you in a vantage position over other interviewees. It is important to note that apart from the regular interview questions, some other questions may pop up that are not even related to the job you are applying for. Sometimes interviewers do this to see how you can think on the spot and make decisions when you have a short time to decide. And also know that it is one of the ways to separate the wheat from the chaff. So what are some of the hard questions you may likely be asked at your next interview? Let us consider 10 of such questions.

1. How did you or will you deal with a non-performing colleague? This is a human relationship question. The essence is to test your ability to work with people and be a team player. Definitely there will be times that colleagues fail in their duties and your own work is affected, but how do you deal with such situation? Tell the panel that you will find out if all is well with the colleague provided everything necessary to do his/her work is available. Tell them you will ask if there is something disturbing this colleague and if anything, how you may help so that his/her work and yours does not suffer.

2. Describe your relationship with your last boss or supervisor: The truth is that you can never have

a perfect boss or supervisor. There will always be areas where you disagree with him/her. And these

disagreements sometimes can be awry and leave much to be desired. However, you don’t have to tell the panel how you hated your boss or supervisor, because doing so will give an impression of how you will be relating with your new boss or supervisor should you be hired.

3. How do you get along with older or younger colleagues? The world of work is dynamic and you will meet different people with different ideologies and age ranges. Your colleagues could be older or

younger. Except if there are laid down policies that stipulate how to relate in terms of addressing each

other, for example as it is in some corporate organisations where they address each other by their first names, then how you relate and get along becomes critical. Mention that respect is a virtue that you have (hopefully you do), and that giving everyone their dues is how you deal with people, whether they are younger or older.

4. What is your main weakness? This is a tricky question and many interviewees fail it because they

unwittingly give answers that focus on their inability to deliver on the job. Remember that always, during interview focus should always be about your strength and that is what you should always project. So in a situation like this tell them you have tendencies to over work. Or that you can’t stand it when targets are not met. This way you have turned ‘weakness into strength’ by giving such reply.

5. What salary do you expect? Many job applicants fail at this stage of the interview. Many make the

mistake of talking money at the first stage of the interview. Doing this may project you as being money conscious. Do all you can at this stage to show what value and how you will add that value to the company. But when it gets to the salary part, be careful not to be the first to mention a figure, because you may mention an amount lower than what the company is planning to pay. You should wait and let them give you a range that they are willing to pay and then pick a figure that is slightly above the median amount. But if you are not sure, you can tell them you will get back to them so you can go and do your research to know the industry's standard as it relates to the job you are applying for. You can do an online search.

6. Where do you see yourself in the next five years? Another very knavish question that requires some level of dexterity in answering. Interviewees who are not skilled will fall into this trap easily. When you answer this question you must show how this job will help you build a career. Don’t say you are going to switch careers and move on to something else that might suggest to the interviewers that you are not committed and focused. Mention where you see yourself in five years and how this job is key to take you there, not the money, but the challenge, experience and opportunity that comes from doing such a job.

7. What kind of a leader are you? A novice might be caught napping here. Someone who does not know that leadership is not about the position but responsibility will goof with this question. Basically, there are two types of leaders (but further breakdown exist), autocratic or democratic. An autocratic leader does not listen to team members. He just issues commands and everyone must obey without questioning. But a democratic leader is one who carries team members along; listens to their views and opinions and then accepts when he makes mistakes and as well make amends. He also does not arrogate all the glory to himself but acknowledges the efforts made by other team members. So this question is seeking to find out if you are a team player. So watch your steps before you slip.

8. If you find money or any other valuable within work premises that the owner cannot be traced, what will you do? Before anything, you should know this is a question about your integrity. Can

you be trusted is what they want to know (Hopefully you can be). Tell them since the money is not yours and the owner cannot be traced immediately you will hand it over to the company for keeps in case the owner shows up later, or as the case may be, hand it over to the police. And if you have an experience that can back that point give it.

9. Why should I hire you? Many job applicants freeze at this question. Naturally you would have thought that the interviewer should know why you are there facing the panel in the first place, so why

the question “Why should I hire you?” You are expected to show the panel that you have the necessary set of skills and experience to deliver on the job. That is why you should have done your homework to know what the job entails and then go there and tell them you are well equipped with the skills and experience you have garnered from past jobs you have done.

10. Why do you want to work here? “Why do you want to work here” is similar to “Why should I hire you”, but they are not the same. At this question of why you want to work here, you are simply to tell the panel of your admiration for the organisation. Point out some noble projects they do, some CSR projects, how they treat their staff with high regard and make working environment conducive and how their activities are helping to make life better for people and so on. There you have ten of some of the hard interview questions that you may be asked during your next interview. Remember that the interview session is not primarily set up to look for ways to disqualify you, but for you to proof to the interviewer that you are qualified. I wish you all the best at your next interview.

I turned my Rejection to my Attention (part 2)

The is the continuation and the last of our Rejection series, enjoy.

WHEN REJECTED, GIVE IT A BREAK AND STRIKE AGAIN

I have learnt over-time that life is not a do or die struggle. When you try few times and it didn’t work, it is advisable to give it a break and get some fresh air.

By that I mean try and give it some time before doing it again. In the fresh air you might discover why it has not been working and as well realise how it can work. Thomas Edison didn’t kill himself, Abraham Lincoln later became President and of course Rtd. Gen. Muhammadu Buhari has become the president of Nigeria after the fourth trial. They and many others all tried different times and it didn’t work. Not getting it in the first few trials might not mean failure. It might be due to wrong approach or wrong timing. Whichever case, just relax a little before striking again.

Focus more on how it’s going to work rather than dwelling on how it didn’t work… charlesfiness

• SURPASS THE LIMITING FACTOR

Something must have made someone to say NO to you. Always deal with the reason why you got that negative response. You can surpass your limiting factor by always adding knowledge to yourself through reading, practising or participating. Some people have talents in them but harnessing it becomes a big issue. Meet with people of greater knowledge than you and learn from them, it is one of the fastest ways to add knowledge. Do more practising on your own than you do generally. Stop keeping yourself in the dark, search for the light all the time.

Stop feeling inferior to others, it will keep you stagnant for a long time… charlesfiness

When it was time for my final year project, I didn’t know how to go about it so I sought the help of an expert. The huge amount he demanded was a big blow.  But that did not set me back. I had to sit down and allow my instincts have its way and with the guidance from my supervisor I sailed through in high notes.

What am saying here is that rejection has a way of bringing out the best in you, show you that you can do what you never thought you can do. It even refines the idea or skills you already have because at that point you will seek to improve on what you know already in order to do better.

Stop leaving your thinking faculty dormant by killing yourself with self-pity… charlesfiness

• LOOK INSIDE OF YOU FOR INSIGHT

There is a personality inside of you that makes you very unique in your life time. Instead of being downcast, allow your God-given instinct to do its work.

Khuan Chew is a world class interior designer who designed and decorated the interiors of the world’s tallest hotel ‘The Burj al Arab’ located in Dubai. Before that she had worked with Sultan of Brunei, which is why she was recommended as the best for the Burj al Arab job. With her record no one will question her judgement on interior designs and decoration, but something very exciting happened; after her world class decoration in the hotel, she was applauded for her great work but was told that the Atrium was not good enough and so the work was rejected.

 Sheikh Mohammed wanted a more stylish and colourful Atrium and not all white. Khuan Chew had to go back, redesign and redecorate the tallest Atrium in the world in just six months and still came out with an outstanding performance. A record time frame she could not achieve initially when she was more relaxed. You can watch the video by clicking HERE.

Rejection is not the end of the road, rather an opportunity to look inside, re-strategize and bring out your best. I want to close my rejection series with this:

If you are weak; rejection gives you strength, if you are visionary; it can make you see farther… charlesfiness